Before I sat down to write this post about shame and fear, I asked myself the question: “Am I really going to admit this to my colleagues and clients?”  I heard in my head the graduate school debate about healthy versus unhealthy levels of self-disclosure in psychotherapy.  Thinking back to my professor’s advice, I wondered, “What is my motive for sharing my own shame?”  The answer came in the form of a quote from shame and vulnerability researcher, Brené Brown, who wrote: “Sometimes the simple act of humanizing problems sheds an important light on them, a light that often goes out the minute a stigmatizing label is applied.” (Pg. 22. Daring Greatly, 2012) And so, on the topic of shame and fear, as they say – “Here goes nothing!” Continue reading “What Others Think”